Do Parents Cause Borderline Personality Disorder?
Updated: Jan 13
The most upsetting aspect of having Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is that our own parents, who are responsible for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being while we are defenseless children, are the ones who have sentenced us to a lifetime of frustration, suffering, and disorder.

This article will cause controversy, not because it is inaccurate, but because it contradicts much of what the professionals tell you about BPD. You may have been told that trauma or genetics cause Borderline Personality Disorder, but I will explain why this is incorrect since there is a lot more to it.
In the past, I've written an article about trauma and genetics being the cause of BPD, which I'm personally not behind. I still remain that article intact since it is how 'experts' describe the cause of the disorder. But for this article, I will show the real cause of BPD.
The main cause of BPD
The way we experience emotions and how we interact with others is provided by our emotional teachers. When we believe our feelings are unimportant, shameful, and worthless, it's because we learned this from our emotional teachers, which are our parents, who are essentially to blame for the disorder.
No matter how much they paid for our college educations, how much they supported our artistic endeavors, how many luxurious vacations they took us on, how many times they got us out of sticky situations, and how much they loved us, they failed at their most fundamental responsibility of all: ensuring our emotional well-being.
When a child arrives at school with a black eye and informs their teacher that the father is to blame, the consequences are immediate and understandable. But nothing occurs when a child arrives at school with questions about their fundamental value as human beings. No alarm bells are ringing. No one is held responsible. And to be very honest, the teacher will not even notice a child who questions their intrinsic value as a human being.
In a few days, a black eye will vanish. But a child who believes that their feelings are essentially meaningless, worthless, and something to be ashamed of will not go away, and this will represent their nature for the future.
How parents cause BPD
Whatever negative views our parents have regarding the fundamental things in life that humans must properly understand to have true happiness, they pass on to the next generation. The most prevalent misunderstanding about feelings that they pass down to us as children is that our feelings are a problem, unimportant and that it makes no difference. They mock you when you reveal your feelings, laugh, become enraged, and ignore your feelings altogether. When your feelings have no positive impact on how others engage with you, they have no inherent value. If your emotions don't make sense to them, then they're meaningless.
To put it another way, your feelings only count if they make sense to others. Someone else has to agree that what you're experiencing is correct, which explains why people with BPD are so dependent on others to feel good.
Because when you are young, you learn about the world and rely on these emotional teachers to understand the nature of everything around you. The message you receive by directly watching their attitudes is that your feelings are unpleasant to them.
If your emotions are essentially unimportant, shameful, and worthless, it won't take long for you to decide that you, too, are fundamentally irrelevant, shameful, and worthless. After all, your emotions are who you are. They are what distinguishes you from others.
Even though what is happening to you when you're young is frightening, true horror is what this causes in the years ahead.
Here are a few examples of what parents have done to their children:
The inability to feel the connection in relationships. Those who are deeply embarrassed by who they are cannot bring themselves to give their real inner self to another person, which is what intimacy requires.
A lack of self-acceptance. Instead, these children live with self-loathing or self-hate. A person who feels unworthy of love does not love themselves.
Years of believing things have no intrinsic value. Any feeling of value they get will be shallow and fragile. Their internal value is based on external variables such as the job they have, their partner, their home, and the vehicle they drive.
They'll be irritated and upset a lot of the time and have no idea why.
BPD caused by parents