Updated: Mar 29, 2022
People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) oftentimes get to a point where they feel stuck or directionless. People with BPD are known to often change career paths due to their interests and values frequently changing. This can leave them feeling hopeless and frustrated.
Are we supposed to follow our gut feeling when we decide what life path to take? Do we let life happen to us, and we'll see it from there? Or should we have it all mapped out?
How do you choose what you want to do in life when you have BPD?
Finding what you want in life can be a difficult quest if you're not in a stable mindset. Someone with BPD has very impulsive desires, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. They act out of highs and lows, which is exhausting. One moment you may want to build a city, and moments later, you want to be left alone on this planet.
The interests and values of someone with BPD change frequently and therefore feel the need to change career paths. As a result, they frequently find themselves stuck in a cycle in which they can never master a profession or keep the same job.
Shorter-term plan paths with multiple options along the way are probably the best for someone with BPD. It may be hard to convince yourself or others that changing tracks so frequently is in your best interests. But forcing yourself to stay on a career path that eventually will make you drop out or burn out is far more harmful to your life and health.
Additionally, if you can find peace within yourself, you will have an easier time finding what you're looking for in life. It doesn't matter if we work hard or do nothing if we don't know what we want for ourselves.
If you want to know what you are looking for in life, it's good to have a plan. However, we try to be in control of everything, which is a bad thing. Life is all about balance and getting comfortable with discomfort.
Your mind shouldn't be clouded by emotion while you are trying to make decisions in life. Emotions are temporary, but decisions are ever-lasting. Build yourself a stable mind and body before making decisions. Focus on eating healthy, having a good sleep routine, and keeping your body moving.
You're the only one who can figure out what you want in life. You can only find it if you look deep inside yourself without fighting your demons left and right.
A message from MentalCurve