Updated: Mar 31
The place where you are born, your health, gender, and the things you're good at are not something you can control. You don't get to choose what cards you're dealt with in life, but you do get to control how you play them. Your life goals can fail or must be abandoned, people will die, and your actions are permanent. Life expects a lot from you, and it isn't fair, or is it?
In this article, we'll talk about our beliefs about how life is unfair, why life is unfair, and if fairness in life is a valid assumption.
Why is life unfair?
Even when you're trying to do everything right by doing good things for other people, unfortunate things can still happen to you. After being crushed by life over and over again, you might be thinking ''Why is life unfair?''. These thoughts can make you unhappy and it might make you ponder on what you did to deserve this unfair life. I think this is an attitude that many of us have, and I've certainly had that train of thought in my life.
We think about how life is unfair to us, ask a lot of whys, compare ourselves to others, and that everything in our lives should go smoothly. We have this idea that life was meant to be painless. We can either waste all of our energy and time thinking about how unfair life is, or we can accept the truth that life will not thrive without being unfair to everyone in the universe since life was never meant to be fair.
We have this idea that life is supposed to be fun, engaging, that you're entitled to, or that you shouldn't have to deal with something painful. Life is a sandbox game, it's not supposed or obligated to be anything. You can decide who you relate with, what to eat, where you live, what job you do, and how you behave. Most of us get so hung up on how we think the world should work that we can’t see how it does work. Life is what you make of it. Let go of what it's supposed to be and look at what it is.
It’s unavoidable that everyone goes through struggles. It's about making the most out of bad situations. We would never grow and learn without going through these times. We would feel stagnant and bored without challenges.
The problem isn’t that life is unfair, it’s the broken idea of fairness. Fairness is a human construct that has nothing to do with how the world works.
Is life fair or unfair?